Fixes#12030
This is a good example of the kind of thing I'd like to address with a time-testing lib. The problem is that there is a race between the watchdog starting it's timer and the test incrementing the time. What would make this easier is if the time-testing library could wait for and assert the call to start the timer before incrementing the time.
adds a watchdog to our pubsub and runs it for Coder server.
If the watchdog times out, it triggers a graceful exit in `coder server` to give any provisioner jobs a chance to shut down.
c.f. #11950
