Migrates us to `coder/websocket` v1.8.12 rather than `nhooyr/websocket` on an older version.
Works around https://github.com/coder/websocket/issues/504 by adding an explicit test for `xerrors.Is(err, io.EOF)` where we were previously getting `io.EOF` from the netConn.
Addresses #14734.
This PR wires up `tunnel.go` to a `tailnet.Conn` via the new `/tailnet` endpoint, with all the necessary controllers such that a VPN connection can be started, stopped and inspected via the CoderVPN protocol.